I’ve been asked some interesting question this past week. So I’ve decided to post the answers to some of the questions here. Maybe they will help others, maybe nobody will read them. Anyway, here are the questions and their answers:
Q: What is bondage?
A: Bondage, in it’s most basic sense, is restraining somebody, or placing them in “bondage”. In a sexual manner this consists of any number of fun and exciting activities. All of which, I am sure you guessed by now, entail restraining somebody. Typically in a bedroom sense the bound person is willing. Well they should be anyway or you’re guilty of a crime and might end up becoming your cellmate’s new sex toy. The tools of bondage are many and varied. Tape, rope, handcuffs, spreaders, ankle cuffs, restraint bars, thumb cuffs, and under the bed restraints are just a few of the more popular items. However, anything you have that can be used to restrain the person will work. The idea is to restrain them then, depending on whether you want an S&M experience or a more tame experience, tease them or torture them. In either way it is common courtesy to have a safe word in advance. If the safe word is uttered, stop. DO NOT CONTINUE WHAT YOU ARE DOING. Aside from being rude, it’s actually a bit evil, it can make your partner not want to play with you. In some cases it causes your partner to have you arrested. So do you really want to register as a sex offender for the rest of your life?
Q: What is the We-Vibe?
A: The We-Vibe is a vibrator specifically designed to be used by couples during intercourse. The smaller side is inserted into the vagina, it’s purpose is to vibrate for the guy while he is inside. The large end, which contains the control button on all models (the We-Vibe 3 actually has a wireless remote as well), is designed to lay on the clitoris and vibrate for the woman. In my humble opinion this is one of the greatest toys on the market.
Q: What is role playing?
A: In a nutshell, role playing is the practice of pretending to be another person for the act of romance/love making. This can be quite a bit of fun. Some basic ideas, adapt different personas and pick each other up at a bar. There’s always the farmers daughter and the stable boy. The idea is to be as creative as possible to make it more fun for both of you. If you let go and let it take control it is almost like being and being with somebody else. It’s fun. It’s exciting. All the cool kids are doing it. If you want, you can even through in costumes. And don’t be embarrassed, you’re doing it in the privacy of your own home, so nobody will know unless you want them to.
That’s it for this week. Until we meet again.
The Doctor is out.